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Crafting a custody and parenting plan that fits your family

On Behalf of | May 24, 2024 | Child Custody

When parents of minors divorce, they need a parenting plan that serves the best interests of the children while respecting each parent’s capabilities and circumstances.

In California, the law prioritizes the child’s well-being, as should you. As parents, you have the power to create a tailored plan that reflects your unique situation.

Exploring tailored custody arrangements

First, it is crucial to understand the types of custody that you might have:

  • Physical custody: This is where a child lives most of the time
  • Legal custody: Parents with legal custody have the right to make decisions for their children.
  • Joint custody: Both parents share time and decision-making responsibilities.
  • Sole custody: One parent has the majority of time with the child and makes key decisions.

When it comes to structuring parenting time, there are several formats that you can adapt to fit the needs of your family. You might consider:

  • Alternating weeks: Children spend one week with one parent and the following week with the other, providing consistency and extended time with each parent.
  • Weekdays and weekends: Children spend weekdays with one parent and weekends with the other, balancing routine and leisure time.
  • 2-2-3 rotation: Children spend two days with one parent, two days with the other, and then a three-day weekend with the first parent. This cycle then alternates.
  • 2-2-5-5 pattern: Children spend two days with each parent and then extend to five days with each, offering a mix of short and longer stays.
  • Bird’s nest custody: Children stay in one home while parents rotate in and out on a schedule.

This is by no means a comprehensive list of options, but it can give you a place to start when it comes to negotiations.

Factors influencing custody decisions

When selecting the arrangement that works for you, consider what you need and value most. Is consistency and predictability for your child most important? Do your lifestyles require you to prioritize flexibility?

You must also consider:

  • Court orders
  • The child’s needs, school and social life
  • Parental living arrangements
  • Quality of communication between parents
  • The child’s preferences

Every family is different, and there’s no universal solution for child custody. The key is to find a rhythm that works for your family, keeping the best interests of your children at the forefront.